If you want to get your ex-girlfriend back, it’s important that you learn to be happy and positive and accept any situations as they come. You see, if you are negative all the time, no matter what happens, she’ll just continue her negative attitude and it will only be a matter of time before you find yourself with another ex. — To be happy and positive, just think about what your life could be like if you were to choose to be positive. For instance, if you have money, what would you do with all of that extra money? Of course, you’d spend it.